Needing God

Day 26: Love is Responsible

Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God's forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well. No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it by receiving it as counsel.

As you work through the 12 steps, you do this. Then in a later step you do it on a continuing basis, which is better than waiting and storing up things you need to apologize for. Better to do it as soon as you recognize what you did  wrong. Much easier to do that way. Pride is a big stumbling block in marriages. No-one ever wants to admit that they did something wrong. That we are less than perfect. But we are less than perfect. If we weren't, we wouldn't need God. Boy do I  need God. This journey has been incredibly humbling and it keeps being so. But on the good side I am finding myself and God.

I love this quote, actually the entire talk is great. It gives me hope which is what step 2 is all about.

There is no physical pain, no anguish of soul, no suffering of spirit, no infirmity or weakness that you or I ever experience during our mortal journey that the Savior did not experience first. You and I in a moment of weakness may cry out, "No one understands. No one knows." No human being, perhaps, knows. But the Son of God perfectly knows and understands, for He felt and bore our burdens before we ever did. And because He paid the ultimate price and bore that burden, He has perfect empathy and can extend to us His arm of mercy in so many phases of our life. He can reach out, touch, and succor--literally run to us--and strengthen us to be more than we could ever be and help us to do that which we could never do through relying only upon our own power.  David A Bednar BYU Devotional, "In the strength of the Lord"  Link